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Celebrating the Spirit of Detroit: Creativity, Community, and Social Justice - Crossover Episode with Miss Mouthy
What if you discovered a city where creativity thrives and community bonds are unbreakable? Join us as we sit down for a crossover episode between the Deep for the Week talk show and the Miss Mouthy podcast, shining a light on the artistic heartbeat of Detroit. From California's sunny landscapes to the vibrant streets of Detroit, explore the journey of finding a home that not only welcomes creativity but celebrates it. Hear firsthand about receiving the Spirit of Detroit Award and the joy of being part of a city undergoing a cultural renaissance. We also explore the quirks of zodiac signs, revealing how a Virgo's structure and a May Gemini's spontaneity fuel our dynamic synergy.
We dive into transformative community initiatives aiming to uplift individuals facing financial hardships, focusing on programs like Club Wit that offer practical assistance and education. Discover the blueprint for inclusive community events, such as Thanksgiving gatherings that truly give back, and learn about our collaborations with local leaders to create memorable experiences. The episode also touches on setting personal goals, nurturing genuine relationships, and supporting social justice causes like the Asia Davis Fund. Our conversation champions the importance of building an understanding and supportive community, especially for marginalized individuals such as transgender people and those in the sex work industry. Join us for this engaging discussion as we celebrate the spirit of Detroit and the power of community support.
Kali: 0:19
It's the Deep for the Week talk show, are you? But guess what we are doing? A crossover show today.
Miss Mouthy: 0:26
I'm so excited. Hey, you guys. It's your girl, miss Mouthy. What's up lips? If it is your first time tuning in to Miss Mouthy podcast, this is the podcast that centers the narratives and experience of trans and non-binary folks and the allies that love and support us. And if you are a new set of lips, thank you for tuning in. I'm so excited for this crossover. Let's get it.
Kali: 0:48
Let's go, girl, and we're just meeting today, so this is a freestyle and I love that. Sometimes we need to be spontaneous and show y'all our true selves and be transparent. I love it, so I like to get to know new people. So today we are getting to know each other on the show today, right in front of you guys, and you guys can get to know a little bit more about us too. Our viewers can get to know a little bit about me.
Kali: 1:11
And there's some of my viewers that would love to know more about me as well. So let's go, you guys. So I am Kali. I've been here in Detroit for about. I'm losing track now. It's been like eight years now, I think. I've been saying five, seven, but it's getting more to it like eight, nine, and I'm from California.
Miss Mouthy: 1:30
Oh, nice, nice.
Kali: 1:32
So I'm branded with the name Callie, because you know that is my real name, and then I'm here from Callie, so I love it. It's cute, it works, you know.
Miss Mouthy: 1:39
Period.
Kali: 1:40
And so I've been here finding myself, and I have definitely found myself here in Detroit. You guys are so loving here, like, so supportive. I love the D what up though.
Miss Mouthy: 1:51
Okay period.
Kali: 1:53
You guys are so transparent. You definitely know what you're getting here, and I like that, because that's how I am.
Miss Mouthy: 1:58
You know what I'm saying here everything that's artistic about me has come like just flourished here. Yeah, I was. You know I love that because you know, like people don't know, but Detroit is like an art renaissance. If you come here, there is literally a melting pot of everything here, from the people who do graffiti to the actual like um print and modeling and all the things. So if you come here and you have a creative bone in your body, you'll flourish here you're gonna love it, you're gonna be always in awe, like even the theater is.
Kali: 2:31
Like you know, I took my daughter to the fox theater for the first. When I went the first time it was for uh, sesame street show I love sesame street. Yeah, yeah, and you know I thought I was gonna be bored because I'm like, oh god, but I'm just sitting there and oh, it's so beautiful and all the architecture, the architect?
Miss Mouthy: 2:48
Yeah for sure. So a little bit about me, born and raised from Detroit, detroit native activist podcaster. One of the biggest honors that I had got last year was that I won a Detroit Spirit of Detroit Award, and it's like one of those ones that only kind of pick certain people who really relish in the city and so I was really honored that like how little old me get that, but like I wear it with great honor because I love my city and like I'm glad now that people are hip to what I always knew. You know, sometimes they see your city and it really is a reflection of the people. Like we went through our bankruptcy, we've had history, even through slavery with the Black Bottom, but Detroit is so resilient in a way that no matter what you throw at us or the people from Detroit, they will thrive, they will be okay and our city will come back stronger and better than ever. So it's good to see the people having opportunity for employment, coming in here, giving us the respect that we deserve but also breaking the stereotype that we're just like this angry, dangerous city that you can't survive in.
Miss Mouthy: 3:55
So you know, I've been doing podcasting for a little over four years. It'll be five in February. Pandemic kind of set me up to where I was. Like you know what, I want to do something different and I went all in and this is where we're at now. But I'm just so passionate to talk about my city and Blackness and entrepreneurship and so whenever I can get an opportunity to meet new people and collaborate and see how we can strengthen each other, I'm always here for it yes, yes and congratulations on your award that's awesome that's great.
Kali: 4:30
I love to hear stuff like that.
Miss Mouthy: 4:32
Thank, you and people always tell me like I could see you being in cali and I'm like, really like, like they'd be, like, if you go there, I think you will be really okay and I'm like, yeah, but I'm just scared of the like natural disasters, of what happens when please do, because that's one of the things.
Kali: 4:49
Like they're having earthquakes two, three a day right now yeah you know, you know, a lot of my friends are still, I've, you know, on facebook and so I see him posting. I'm like, I know, yeah, and with me my anxiety does not play with same same, like.
Miss Mouthy: 5:05
It'd be like oh life and death.
Kali: 5:06
Like oh my god, I can't survive. Girl, I can't use the bathroom, take a shower. It's like I'm over here thinking like I'm gonna be on the toilet it just starts shaking, yeah I'll just be like oh my god okay, so what is your zodiac sign?
Miss Mouthy: 5:18
I'm a virgo okay period, very structured, very certain type of okay, let's help you very yeah, no, no, that's good. No, I get along with um virgos. I'm a gemini, okay, yeah, so whatever that may wheel, depending on people love for it, but I'm a made gemini, so we're a little more sweeter than our june yeah, yeah, yeah, y'all are yeah, yeah, yeah, and so I'm an 80s baby.
Kali: 5:41
What, what are you? Yeah, yeah, same 80 baby.
Miss Mouthy: 5:44
um, I think growing up in the 90s was just so nostalgic and a time that, like I, be wanting to relive all the time, like damn, why couldn't I be grown in the 90s? Because it was a time.
Kali: 5:55
Yes, we thought we was grown. You know, with the songs and the groups, immature, moesha, all the.
Miss Mouthy: 6:00
I mean we really had it, the original Power Rangers.
Kali: 6:06
All, all the. I mean we had it, yeah, the original um power rangers like come on the simpsons, oh my god, duck tales and yeah, all the good stuff yeah so what got you into podcasting?
Kali: 6:13
I okay so originally, and I'm still, I'm still going to do that. I just kind of put it off for a while because it was a little overwhelming, um, with not having help. But originally okay. So I'm a stripper hey I love a good dancer okay, period and so I started off with doing a um reality show documenting me and my friends that have been stripping for a while transitioning out of it yes, yes okay and so we still are trying to do that.
Kali: 6:41
but we just, like I had a lot of life happens in a lot of people's life and so but and so in the meantime, I started doing this and I just have a lot to say. You know, and I do talk a lot on my social media People are always like you know, you should do a podcast. And I'm like, okay, you know what, let's do it.
Miss Mouthy: 7:05
You know, and a lot of people have invited me on theirs, and I'm like you know, let me just do my own. Yeah, because for me it was one of those things that I've seen. I've seen so many creatives come together and try to like start it from the ground up. But creative differences, people expectations, and I was like, if I'm going to fail, let me fail by myself first and then get that reinforcement, if I need it, from someone else. And then I only wanted to be solely responsible if my shit crashed and burned, right.
Kali: 7:32
Yeah, exactly, and be in control of your topics and your narrative and stuff like that.
Miss Mouthy: 7:37
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kali: 7:38
Yeah, so I decided to do that and I'm going to combine the two, you know, and then there's just so much going on and, like when I was thinking about doing the podcast, I was like I don't have that much of an audience you know, at the time I started off with like what? 2.5 K followers. That's good, I know that is so good it's like you know, they're all people I knew, so I'm like they already know my story, they already know how.
Kali: 8:01
You know I wanted a newer audience, a more broader audience, and it was crazy In two months I went from 2.5 to 65K. That is so good. And this was like what, okay, and I was like, well, maybe I am supposed to do something. You know, because now I have the audience and you know I'm not talking to myself, you know. So that encouraged me a little more because, you know, I did, I followed a little couple of steps on how to grow your audience and then I was like, once I grow my audience, I'll do it. And then it grew like that. And you know, I believe in karma.
Miss Mouthy: 8:31
Yeah, did that reassure you?
Kali: 8:32
Yeah, so I was like okay, you ain't playing with me.
Miss Mouthy: 8:35
This is where you supposed to be doing.
Kali: 8:36
Yeah.
Miss Mouthy: 8:37
I think that's one of the things I had to be real about my expectation, because when people see you step out on something that they can't do or they can't see the vision, you can't let those numbers deter you, and I'm so grateful that I was like, if I just get five people to listen to my podcast, I'm going to be happy, and that was the thing that literally helped me.
Miss Mouthy: 8:58
But when I you know, creatively, you do get blocks and life do be life, and so in the moments where I had to take a pause and reassess those confirmations I would get would be like where's that girl who was talking about blah blah, blah, blah, blah? Or it will reach outside of my hometown. So like you'll be thinking, if you don't see it within your own backyard and your social circle, then you're not busing. But then here you go, in Atlanta, people is like loving you. Or you go to DC, people know your name and it's just like, oh OK, y'all just don't want to show me love here because it's that crab in a bucket mentality, but when you search outside of it, it's bigger than you you know, and you know I was talking to somebody about that the other day because my hometown is like it's, you know, a lot of bit small towns inside of it so, like I come from a town where everybody knows everybody and they look for the validation from each other.
Miss Mouthy: 9:50
They even have their own like grammys or whatever they call that same here. The little like city, yeah oh my god, girl it's.
Kali: 9:57
It's so cliquish because it's like when you're gonna pick somebody and who is the committee?
Miss Mouthy: 10:02
who is the?
Kali: 10:03
board. Like who in the board.
Miss Mouthy: 10:04
Who is doing the voting? Yeah, because y'all just randomly picked this shit, right you?
Kali: 10:08
know, and so it feels good to have people that are complete strangers, validate you and trust you and uplift you, and so I'm getting more validation from the strangers and loving that. That's where it's at.
Miss Mouthy: 10:19
Sometimes I've loved that, every opportunity that came for me, because there's some people out here and there's no shade to them, but we don't call it spade a spade, that there is people who go out of their way to search for opportunity, to clout, chase, to do all these things. But everything that I think the universe brings my way it be authentic because I didn't have to go searching outside of myself for it. And every opportunity is not a good opportunity, but people like to just jump on anything just to say a will. So I think when things come to you, naturally it's for you.
Kali: 10:54
Yeah, so that's what I've been letting things do and it's been working that way. It's like all the resources and you know it always looks big to a small person.
Miss Mouthy: 11:02
Yeah.
Kali: 11:02
Yeah, but it just be like, okay, you know people come helping and you know that's what I'm hope happens with my um club, with something that um, tell me more, yeah. So um club with it's a club for single parents and um what we do in club with is like um each other, um, I'm trying to make it nationwide.
Miss Mouthy: 11:23
I love that.
Kali: 11:23
Yeah and so, um, what we're basically doing is, like you know, there's women that are having breakdowns, um, trying their best, like they're on, they're working and they get, like that supplement from childcare, but you know it only allows you to work 32, 38 weeks, but you like to be able to pay babysitter just to go have a cup of coffee by your damn self or just have them not in the house for a few hours or whatever you know, go to a hotel to just lay down and watch tv and do nothing, like those things that people don't think that single parents really need to keep going?
Kali: 12:01
yeah, and you know they, they discredit and discount. So our club will, you know, to be a member, you'll have to be like a sister, like a member, and you'll have to provide like six hours a month, six to 12 hours a year to another member for those breaks, like you know.
Miss Mouthy: 12:16
I love that.
Kali: 12:17
Yeah and um, we, we help you with the rent or stuff that come up. We're not going to give you actual cash because we are. There are people that will have a pair you know something every month to say, oh, I'm about to get evicted.
Miss Mouthy: 12:29
Yeah.
Kali: 12:30
We're going to actually pay through account numbers, and you know, do you know?
Miss Mouthy: 12:34
Officially yeah.
Kali: 12:34
Yeah, we're not, you know, giving people money to go get that weed bus down to their ass like that you know because, and so we're also. With that being said also, we're also going to have virtual classes that provide financial literacy, help people tap into their natural talents to learn to make extra money outside of work.
Miss Mouthy: 12:52
Yeah.
Kali: 12:53
And just have like classes or group meetings and like meetings where you can just socialize with people that are in the same boat.
Miss Mouthy: 13:00
I love that you know.
Miss Mouthy: 13:01
Kudos to you for that, because it's so imperative. One of the things I'm appreciating about Black people, and especially the minorities that's displaced with financial disparity is that we show up for our own, and so that example is that, yes, we be appreciative of whatever come across our desk or whatever support we get, but sometimes it be your very own, knowing exactly what your struggles is and what you go through and what you need, and when nobody else is to look around, whether it be our own family or you know how they say you're going to get all these benefits, but the timeline of it right, them bills still coming on the 1st and the 15th. So I appreciate that. It shows community togetherness. It's showing intentionality with being able to say that this is a real need, and if y'all won't acknowledge that single parents is all these children have right Like, if you say our children is the future, then the people who they are sourcing all their dependencies on need to be revitalized you know, so I can't wait to see what that is, and I can't wait to well.
Miss Mouthy: 14:15
I'm no longer single as a very newly, but you know I'm still in the mix of like support. I'm going to always be here for a good cause. I'm going to show up.
Kali: 14:25
Yeah, so it's called Club Wit. Yes, cause I'm gonna show up. Yeah, so it's called club wit. And so, um, I'm looking forward to, you know, helping people and, um, one of our first uh acts, um, one of our first things we're going to do for the community is we're going to have um just where we just have like our own little thanksgiving. Get together, do weaves yes, nails makeup give gift bath, skits and stuff.
Miss Mouthy: 14:48
Yeah.
Kali: 14:48
So I'm gathering. So if you're in Detroit area, I'm gathering hairstylists, nail stylists, makeup artists, you know, and we're getting them. I need like six of each so we can do, you know, at least 100 women's hair and stuff like that I'll send you.
Miss Mouthy: 15:03
Some leads to some folks that I know will be good people to reach out to and connect to, and, like that reminds me around the Thanksgiving time meals with Mouthy, I do like a holiday dinner. Oftentimes we know that people are shut off and they don't have family or resources or the means. Even transportation can be a barrier when it comes to thinking about the holiday spirit or your mental health. Transportation can be a barrier when it comes to thinking about the holiday spirit or your mental health. Right, like when you think about holidays. If you lost somebody significant to you and you think of your grandma dressing or your mama cake, it can really do something to make you want to avoid the holidays altogether. So I just like to create a space where people don't got to worry about their pockets, they don't got to be thinking about what they're going to wear. Just come, be in love, be in feel, get your belly feel, and if it makes sense for us to collaborate to provide food for your event, we'll make it happen.
Kali: 15:58
I was just going to say where do you, or do you know where you're going to do that at this year?
Miss Mouthy: 16:02
No, not this year. Normally I rent out my cousin's rental space. Last year when I did it, but I kind of did like a both and I was running a program called Breaking Barriers to help trans women find job placement and so my graduates at the time when they graduated the program, the organization didn't really want to back me the way that I felt like my girls deserve to be reimbursed and like if it's graduation, let's do it up, let's make them feel special because they didn't put in eight to 10 weeks to show up consistently, let's make it good. So I just kind of combined their graduation with the event and like it turned out really, really good. But this year, depending on the number, I kind of want to find a space that can accommodate more. It did great, but I feel like I need a little bit more room and a little bit more. I probably do like a hall or something. Find like a good hall in the city.
Kali: 16:55
Okay, yeah, so while I'm looking, I definitely will let you know, because I'm looking for places to rent as well, yeah, and so when I see stuff that I think what's your number, what are you looking to occupy?
Miss Mouthy: 17:10
You know what, if you're going to have 100 ladies, I would definitely love to be able to feed at least 150 people, right, because everybody brings a plus one or a little friend here and there. So we can feed like 150 to 200 people. We can make it happen, and even if we don't, at least that would be the word of mouth where we have this hundred people that be like you know what. Y'all should have been there, we got our hair with nails down and we ate, so we can put out good intentions and the great results will come.
Kali: 17:38
Yeah, and vendors that are willing to help. You guys can, you know, use that as an opportunity to advertise and, you know, expand your business as well. So we are looking for vendors for that. You know, let's collaborate y'all, yeah.
Miss Mouthy: 17:49
Yeah, so it seems like one of the things that you've been on a journey of. You can correct me if I'm wrong. It's like self-care you're learning practices on how to take care of yourself, and like this new journey that you seem to be on. So what things have you discovered about yourself?
Kali: 18:06
Oh, that's a good question. During this journey, I discovered a lot about myself. Most of it has been here, actually, but I discovered that I, like you, know that big girl shit. Like you know, when you realize, like all the problems you were going through they were really your fault. Yeah, you know, like that's real, even if, like people were treating you bad.
Miss Mouthy: 18:31
Bad, it's like why didn't I have boundaries?
Kali: 18:33
you know what I'm saying? Yeah, so that. And then it also taught me not to judge like, because I've been through depression here, this here, and, like I was saying on my Facebook the other day, depression may look like laziness.
Miss Mouthy: 18:47
Yeah.
Kali: 18:47
And so it's taught me not to judge. It's just so my journey I felt like at the end it's kind of created a philanthropist, because now I understand so much about people, because you know, I went through so much and alone, to where I had the thought process to think like why is this happening? Yeah, yeah, so I learned how to think. Yeah, you know, my journey taught me how to think and not be compulsive and when to be compulsive and what, what grieving is really doing to you.
Miss Mouthy: 19:19
Yeah, and how to like trust yourself within those decision making processes Right, like the ability to know that, like, even if you make a mistake, it's OK because you got the ability to correct that. You ain't going to get it all right every single time, you know.
Kali: 19:33
I think I learned that I feel like that's my superpower now correcting and fixing it, like you know. So when I go through something now, it's like okay, I know, I'm about to learn something. Something's about good about that, you know. So it's a different feeling.
Miss Mouthy: 19:45
Now, when I go through things, I'm like, oh shit, something good about to happen, you know yeah, I love that because, um, I too went through depression, anxiety, and you don't understand how pivotal mental health is if you have not had that conversation right. You can talk to your friends about sex. You can talk to them about your need for money or your desire of your life dreams and goals, but when it comes to something embarrassing or taboo, as girl, I really struggled to get out of the bed today because life was hard like, oh, that's too much. I don't want to hear that, but I'm the same girl you could drag out the house to put some clothes on and hit you at the club, um, and so I've just been finding myself to be okay with that in this life.
Miss Mouthy: 20:32
You, if you gonna go through life, you gonna hit a trauma. Something about your life experience is gonna bring you trauma and you're gonna have a reaction to your mental health and learning these tools. Now that makes me understand that the airflow is the same. Now I kind of treat the good with the bad and it's just like I treat it the same. It's a blessing to learn from the lesson that I felt was a bad Right, but then that good also strengthened me that I have grown past what may no longer trigger me.
Kali: 21:00
So yeah, that's basically so to answer your question, then I guess in this journey I've learned coping mechanisms.
Miss Mouthy: 21:06
Yeah.
Kali: 21:07
Something I was never taught by my mom or society. You know, you know, being a black kid, you know we fall. It's like all right, you OK. You okay, get up, get your ass up, yeah. So it's like no one ever helped us cope like you know, let me see this. Okay, let's wipe it off. You know it was always come on you good, you know, and it's like you. We kind of went through life like that and then, you know, sometimes you break, like your body, like it's not good I'm hurting.
Miss Mouthy: 21:32
You know, your heart is saying I'm hurting, you know your spirit is exhausted and it's like why don't nobody care enough to just be a little bit more tender with me?
Kali: 21:42
yeah, you got to be that to yourself, so I've learned all that not to to rely on people to help me heal or to care about me feeling sad, or to acknowledge or see it like it's. That's all on me, you know, and but even though I've learned to be that way with myself, I'm still don't want to be that way with everybody else.
Miss Mouthy: 22:00
Yeah you know what's been very even that right, that inner perspective of how people have been or what experience I had to go through. It helped shape how I parent now, like with my eight-year-old, I enjoy being softer to her, not policing her, being a little bit more patient, and it's like to me I don't even know how to turn it on. It's just one of the things that I'd be like I want to talk from a place of love, because I may not have always been talked in that tone and that tone was intimidating for me, so I don't want to pass that on to my child, to where now she feels like she can't talk to me about something you know.
Kali: 22:39
Yeah, yeah. This journey has definitely helped with my parenting Cause I apologize to my kids Like you know. All of that stuff I probably would never, you know, and I have started over. So I have older kids and then I have younger kids. I have, you know, 24 year old. Then I, I have older kids and then I have younger kids.
Miss Mouthy: 22:55
I have a 24-year-old, then I have a 10-year-old.
Kali: 22:58
Hey come on. But my 24-year-old she validates me a lot. She's always like I'm so glad you raised me the way you did. It's kind of even hard to be friends with people because they are just not okay, they don't understand. I have my little daily routine I go to the gym, I read my books, I drink my coffee, and she'll be like what's wrong with y'all?
Miss Mouthy: 23:18
yeah, yeah, no for real.
Kali: 23:21
So you know yeah, so I, I have, I've learned that. Um, you know it's up to me to to make me okay. You, you know, the people that hurt you are not gonna, yeah, validate your pain yeah, and they're not gonna admit to it.
Miss Mouthy: 23:33
You know, we all have the ability to cause harm and, depending on where you're at in your journey, how you've been brought up, um, and really, what's your motive? Right, like, because some people, as much as they don't want to admit it, a lot of people in the human experience, is more jealous than they need to to. You know, fess up to it's like damn, you really found love. Or like you really got over that pain. Or you still here, like god is still taking favor over you. How is this possible, right? Um? So so that's one of the things that's crazy that you say that yeah, no, no it's real
Miss Mouthy: 24:08
it is I used to be so resentful of, like people who I felt like should be clapping for me. That wasn't clapping for me, but it's like they can't see past their own reality. How do you expect them to be happy for you? And everything you seem to share seems like a blessing. But that's because I'm one of those people that have put the blunt of the pain on myself and I won't come around you until it feels good for me to be in good spirits, because I never want to take that out on somebody who don't deserve it.
Kali: 24:37
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's that's kind of how I am too. That's a they say that's a Virgo thing. Like you guys go into the shell when you guys are struggling, I'm like maybe that's good. You don't want to share that energy and that aura. But yeah, that's kind of been my journey here and it's a it's good thing. But it's also made me, um, still want to help people.
Miss Mouthy: 24:55
that you know, to help people with their coping skills yeah, so I'm big on like manifestations and putting things out into the world. What is um some of your short-term goals that you would love to accomplish, let's say, um, by next year or something?
Kali: 25:14
okay, so by next year I would like for um the business that I just launched, to expand congratulations and have um all the necessities for it. Right now I'm saving, and by next year I'd also like to have at least 100 members in club with.
Miss Mouthy: 25:34
Yeah, I love that, that intentionality I'm manifesting a really like heal, healthy, joyful future. I want to strengthen my own personal relationships. I want to have authentic friends. I want to travel more. I love to travel and I want my podcast or even my media company to have a consistent demand but not oversaturating, exhausting kind of pull on me in life. Yeah, like a beautiful balance, yeah.
Kali: 26:10
Yeah, and that is hard to do. Yeah, you know you want it to pick up, but you're like when it does, okay, oh, I need help, I'm doing it.
Miss Mouthy: 26:18
Yeah, that's what.
Kali: 26:19
I experienced with my documentary that we know it's a transition. I'm like, okay, this was a little more than I thought it was going to be yeah, yeah, yeah. Edited 15 hours.
Miss Mouthy: 26:29
Mm-hmm, you know you know.
Kali: 26:31
So, yeah, you got to take it and learn your pace and learn to balance. I just still enjoy the journey and stuff like that.
Miss Mouthy: 26:38
And.
Kali: 26:39
I love the travel. Where are you going?
Miss Mouthy: 26:41
So no, for real. There was something about Cuba on the table, but I think I might wait. But I definitely want to take base somewhere warm for February, so somewhere tropical, perfect time to go, yeah, and next month I don't know where the trip possibly may be, but we'll see for February.
Kali: 26:54
So somewhere tropical, Perfect time to go, yeah, and next month I don't know where the trip possibly may be, but we'll see. Have you been to.
Miss Mouthy: 27:02
California. Yes, okay, yes, I have. I think it's beautiful, but I haven't been to LA, and I guess that's the place I'm always shooting for every time. But sometimes I always land in San Fran. So it's like, oh okay, not to run with it, but I just be like I want to go to LA, so bad. Yeah.
Kali: 27:21
So hopefully if you go to LA, I can show you around me and try to go there and show you all yeah, cause the food, okay, the food, the Mexican food you're going to love it. So I got to show you. But LA is beautiful and you'll love the beaches and the foothill mountains and stuff. You got to get there. But yeah, I definitely want to network more with our clubs and even if we don't put them together. I want to help volunteer with you around Thanksgiving.
Miss Mouthy: 27:47
Whatever you need, I want to point you to the people that can help and support your mission, because that's a beautiful mission to have and, yeah, I just love supporting people who I love go after their goals. It's trying and like doing. Doing it it's a reason right, like we were able to come into this for whatever reason, and I want to be a great vessel to support you in your endeavors yes, yes same here same here, and I think that um there are no such things as coincidences so
Kali: 28:17
we definitely will. You, you know, use each other for, for what we, we were meant to connect for. And, um, I, like I said, I am building my network here in detroit. I know people, but I want to get to know way more people, way more people. And then I also, um, like four or five shows back I I did an interview with a trans man. Okay, I don't know if I'm saying it right, because he correct, she corrected me a lot. She's uh, you can correct me okay.
Miss Mouthy: 28:46
Okay, it depends on the person right um, but go ahead I, but she kept saying you're saying it wrong.
Kali: 28:51
I was like okay, girl girl.
Miss Mouthy: 28:55
Okay, it could be a trans woman or it could be a trans man, depending on how they was born at birth.
Kali: 29:00
I think he was born a male, so it probably was a female.
Miss Mouthy: 29:04
Yeah, presenting as a female. Yes, okay, and you was misgendering, as like he's saying. He she.
Kali: 29:12
He refers as she. So yeah, I was saying it wrong or right?
Miss Mouthy: 29:16
I'm not no, I think you were saying it right. If she identifies as she, then you saying it right, even if she was born male at birth okay, yeah, so I'm still.
Kali: 29:23
I was like that's what the show is about to teach me, but yeah um, I want you know, like with with him, her, I want to help her because she has like, uh, if you know she's her job of choice, is she's on the streets? Yeah and she's doing drugs, but she wants to change her life, you know so it's like I don't think that you know they relate to me like as a friend, but I can't relate enough to help them yeah, yeah yeah.
Kali: 29:49
So like with that, like you know I don't know if you're um, if what you do kind of helps with stuff like that as well yeah so you know, trying to do the breaking barriers and then that kind of like went to a stop.
Miss Mouthy: 30:02
But one of the things I'm looking forward to working on is um, a fund called the asia davis fund. That's named after my friend who was like that, one of the girls who got murdered last year by a young man. Like violence is very prevalent in my community. Just because we get killed just for existing, and what they do sometimes is even we have to hustle, like I don't care what your hustling is, whether you have a nine to five or your body is your nine to five. If that is your lucrative way of making money, then that is. And like sex is natural and sex work is a job, and so my best friend was a sex worker. I never most gorgeous girl you could ever see entice any man, but it didn't take away from the value that she didn't deserve to die right. And so, even in addiction, these people's lives are still valuable, even if they can't get past that disorder yeah.
Miss Mouthy: 31:01
And so the Asia Davis fund is going to be this way of me being able to resource them to get what they need right, Like if you need your hotel room cover, or you cause, if they can't, if it's survival sex work and I can't think about my next meal, or I can't think about you're telling me get a job but that's a seven day wait, or maybe 14, for me to eat.
Kali: 31:25
And in the meantime, I'm there every day, hungry.
Miss Mouthy: 31:29
And, but while this guy is fetishizing me and chasing me down and hitting my life.
Kali: 31:33
Yeah, I'm gonna go get what I need to get to get through the day and that, you know, it's like people don't understand reality, like everybody don't got a mama to call or something, like you know. That's why I started my club as well, because I'm like I thought about what if everybody couldn't do what I do, like when they get that pay or quit or when they finish, you know whatever happens, and I go, go dance and do a double shift, yeah, come on with the rack.
Kali: 31:54
Yeah, what about those girls that can't do that? You know I mean. So. It's like, you know, we judge a lot and then we talk about welfare. You know they don't. Well, okay, what do you want them to do?
Miss Mouthy: 32:03
yeah, yeah, and and that's the thing about me, right, like, um, a lot of in my community they look at me as this, like poster child, or put me on a pedestal. But it's like girl, I'm from the same hood, ain't nothing changed? Like, yes, I didn't learn how to speak a little language or code switch, but I get in a bitch ass real quick. If I need to, you know I'll hustle however I need to. But it's about learning your niche and learning how to make money off of it and give yourself a realistic timeline.
Miss Mouthy: 32:34
We're not saying if you really like fucking, ok, let's see how we can apply this to OnlyFans. Let's see how we can make money in a way that gives you a little bit more safety and give yourself a timeline, because we know in all industries, especially inllywood, whether you act, sing, dance, it's going to come a time, as a woman, that they're going to start being like you're a little too old, you shouldn't be doing this, and it's just like well, if this been my source of income for 10 years, uh, get up on there, which is yeah, yeah and yeah, and that's it that, like you said in that, in the industry where you use your body, or your beauty to make money.
Kali: 33:11
It's coming.
Miss Mouthy: 33:12
That is coming.
Kali: 33:13
And then what's next? You know what I'm saying. So, yeah, yeah. So it's great to have met you and be able to network with you-gritty because I'm rebranding myself, I'm learning how to redo.
Miss Mouthy: 33:22
I'm never afraid to just like start from scratch and do it all over again. What's the worst? Can happen nothing. Yeah, you can only get better, exactly yeah you know, just the foundation is already there. You just, you know remodeling a little bit, so yeah, and I'm excited to learn more about your story, so I'm be tuning in to your show and supporting and turning the people on to you thank you, thank you same.
Kali: 33:55
Here we can you know, and I'll, like I said, I hope that we do good networking in the future. And this is miss mouthy y'all lips at detroit period okay, we went up though, okay, and and and we. We will see each other again soon and talk about our future endeavors, and Thanksgiving is coming soon, so we definitely got to get together soon. Yes, yes, yes Because this time I think they're playing with it, but it's going by fast, that's true, thank you.
Miss Mouthy: 34:19
It was an honor to be here. You're such an amazing host. Keep doing what you're doing. Thank you, you're going to go far, thank you. Same same.
Kali: 34:27
And let's do it girl. Let's get together and make some moves.
Miss Mouthy: 34:30
Okay, how you in yours, how you in your show.
Kali: 34:33
Well, I say thanks for watching.
Miss Mouthy: 34:35
Okay, period.
Kali: 34:36
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Miss Mouthy: 34:52
I love that. I need to start seeing more of comment and share and subscribe. But it's your girl, Miss Mouthy. Even when you what Don't see me, you hear me Till next time.
Kali: 35:02
Bye Peace. Thanks for watching y'all.