Deep For The Week

Living by Your Core Values and Principles

• Kali

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How far would you go to maintain your integrity when faced with unethical behavior from those closest to you? This week on Deep for the Week, we challenge the conventional wisdom that loyalty must be tied to family or long-term friendships. Through personal anecdotes and real-life scenarios, we examine the complex layers of setting boundaries, even with those we hold dear. What happens when a sibling cheats or a friend neglects their children? Should we confront them or distance ourselves? This episode encourages you to reflect on your own values and the difficult decisions that sometimes come with upholding them.

Associations matter more than you might think. In this episode, we underscore the significance of choosing positive relationships and how the company we keep can profoundly impact our lives. Hear personal stories about cutting ties with toxic individuals and why it’s crucial to address unethical behavior head-on rather than simply gossiping about it. By recognizing patterns of negative actions and asserting your personal boundaries, you’ll learn how to protect yourself from the collateral damage of scandalous or malicious individuals.

Good character is not just a trait but a commitment to ethical conduct both personally and professionally. We break down core values such as integrity, morality, honesty, and principles, offering real-life scenarios to test your adherence to these ideals. Learn to identify early signs of toxic behavior and the importance of setting clear, assertive boundaries. Through insightful discussions, we aim to empower you to embody the principles you wish to see in others, making you a beacon of good character and ethical behavior in all your relationships.

Kali: 0:01

It's the Deep for the Week talk show. Are you ready to talk? Let's get deep for the week. Hello and thank you for watching the Deep for the Week show. I'm your host, Kali, and before we get started, as I always do, I'm going to ask you to like, share and subscribe, and even comment. If you have any comments or input, we love to hear back from you guys. So today's episode of the Deep for the Week show is on healthy relationships setting boundaries, shit, because we seem to like that and I see that it's changing. Well, basically, I'm doing this episode to see if the definition of those words are evolving. So let's talk about it. Let's get deep, you guys. It, let's get deep, you guys.

Kali: 1:10

So, relationships, healthy relationships, what one would consider a healthy relationship or an unhealthy relationship? What is that to you? We're not just referring to relationships with our spouse today. We're referring to relationships with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, et cetera the people in our lives daily or born into our lives. Sometimes, when people are born into our lives, we feel obligated to keep a relationship with them, no matter what they do. And should we be doing that? Should there be a cutoff point for everybody, everybody? I definitely see a lot of people feeling obligated to people according to relation, and so I wanted to do this show. Because I do speak to a lot of people about this, so I felt necessary to do a show. I'm not a counselor, I'm not a therapist, but a lot of people come to me after experiencing unhealthy relationships for advice, and so it geared me to do this show. So let's talk about it.

Kali: 2:17

You know, do you stay in relationships, regardless of what one does, because of the title, like your mom, your sister, cousin, etc. Or because you've been friends with someone since fifth grade? Do you do that? These are all usually reasons why one makes the other feel obligated to them, no matter what they do. But there should be a cutoff point. Or do you feel there should be a cutoff point? Should you be obligated to people because of a title kind of point you should, you know. Should you be obligated to people because of a title? Should there be this type of form of obligation or entitlement because of relation, so that we stop associating with friends and family that we know are scandalous, malicious and do fucked up shit, like even if one doesn't do it to you? Do you have integrity and say you know I'm not dealing with them no more. I've seen them do wham and that was fucked up, so I'm I'm not turning the other cheek, I ain't got nothing to say to them, but I'm not dealing with them no more.

Kali: 3:15

Or do you stick around? What do you do? You know, like, do you leave because you know what one's capable of? Let's give some examples. For example, let's see you see your sister cheat on her husband with other men from the church. Okay, she attends that church and she's constantly accusing her husband of cheating, but she's at church cheating with all the married men. Let's take a sit. Do you sit back and watch this because society says your loyalty is to your sister? Or do you address her because it's not right, you know, and she's sit back accusing him all the time of cheating, but you sitting there, you know for sure she's cheating. What do you do? You just leave it alone because that's your sister? Do you tell the husband, which is your brother-in-law? Okay, like what, if the shoe was on the other foot and it was your husband behaving like this and your brother-in-law is watching and he's in disbelief and disappointment and disgust, would you expect your brother-in-law to tell you? Or just turn the cheek and wait for you to find out, and mind is the goddamn business. What do you do in these situations, like especially if you know a person is a good person and they're good, good husband or spouse like, do we turn the cheek? Do we disassociate with them? Do we address them? What do we do? What do we do? Okay, here's another situation because that might be too much for you Like why do I have to use that as an example? Because those situations can be awkward, because you tell the person and they still stay with the spouse, and you know, 20 years from now, there's awkward energy between you and that spouse, your brother-in-law, because you told that they was cheating and she ain't going nowhere. So that is an awkward situation. So let's just skip another situation.

Kali: 5:26

Do you continue to be friends with someone that you know for a fact, whether they're female or male, because they are both? Now, in the society we live in, we have females and males that are horrible parents. They have nothing to do with their children, they don't pay child support, they don't associate properly with them, they don't have healthy relationships with their children because they are the absent parent. Do you disassociate with them? Do you address them, at least address them, or you just ignore, turn the cheek, like, well, you know, ain't none of my business, they don't do nothing wrong to me, but you watch them spend money as you go out and eat and party and go to the bar and clubs, but you know for a fact they don't take care of their kids. Do you? Do you be okay with that? Or do you do it? You say something?

Kali: 6:11

These is the kind of questions I'm going to ask about integrity today, and I'm asking this because this stuff has all been brought to me and I'm like, hey, let's ask. Like you know shit? There's a saying that association is everything and I believe that you know. I'm saying it's absolutely everything for you know for me because, like, for example, someone that you hang with be doing all gang of fucked up shit on the outside, you know when they're not with you and you're riding with them in their car, you know, maybe to go eat, go to the bar, go to a function, and the enemy or the person that they're doing this jacked up stuff to all the time. See them, you're in the passenger and they shoot the car up. Most likely that person is going to be, they're going to duck. They're going to probably live, not even probably get, but like a graze, while you get shot and wounded. And I say that to say, and you see it all the time Somebody innocent gets, you know, hurt and it's like they didn't even gangbang or they didn't even this or they didn't even that, they didn't have no enemies, they were sweet and it's like, how did that happen?

Kali: 7:25

Maybe association. So association is everything you know and again, that's usually how it happens. And it happens that way because the person that is humble and not doing anything wrong and not cutting people's throat, not living scandalous maliciously, they're not looking over their back, they're not worried about who's coming for them, because they ain't done nothing to nobody. So when they go out they're enjoying themselves. So they think, unless there was someone that is scandalous and malicious and can get them hurt, one that is scandalous and malicious and can get them hurt. So association is everything.

Kali: 8:09

I personally, when I see somebody doing these type of things and it becomes a pattern, I see that it's a pattern and it's not just a one-time thing, I'm out Because I don't want to be around to feel the particles when that bomb is dropped on them by their enemies or even just by karma, you do have to reap the seeds that you sow. I believe in that. I'm a strong believer in that um, because I only sow good seeds, and when I did I ain't gonna say I'm perfect. That's now, you know. But back in my day I've had my days and I've seen that you know, even if it's not the person that comes for you, like, and it's crazy, because when it happens, you know you think about what you did wrong. Like this is happening to me because I did that or I did so. You know it's like that energy is real. You know that feeling that it don't, that it's like, telepathically, something is telling you this is your, this is yeah, believe that shit. Okay. Like, don't be thinking you're invincible. Them people will be the main ones. You know you may win the war, but you ain't gonna win the battle. Some, you know it's gonna come back and so, yeah, I definitely want to do that show, this show, for many reasons.

Kali: 9:26

I come from people that feel that because you're family, you're supposed to disregard what they do. But I feel that you should watch who you're kicking with y'all, or do you just not care as long as they ain't doing the shit to you, is it okay? You know well, I think that you should really consider, from the stuff I've seen in life, who you kicked it with. I've had a friend since fifth grade that did absolutely nothing to me other than you know, not be there when, like, I was there for her. I don't really discount that because you going through stuff is nobody's fault and we'll talk about that another day. You know so people, you know like stop being friends with people because you know I let her borrow $20. She let me borrow $20. But we'll talk about that another day off, because and we were friends since fifth grade, because I've seen her literally having sex with guys that her friends were with, like deeply in love with, thought maybe one day I'll have their baby or be their wife, and then thought that they were good friends with her and so, like we all do maybe have sex with people that are involved with someone or deal with.

Kali: 10:46

But it's different when you know someone personally. You know how the person feel, you know how to affect the person. I think so, or should it be, I don't know? Comment below um, I don't know. When those people also think that they're her friends, it also makes a difference, you know. So I literally walked out on a relationship since fifth grade, around my early thirties, because of that Cause. I'm just like, oh you, scandalous, scandalous, and I know what I'm capable of. If you ever do that to me, I'm going to serve you some steak to put on your eye, you know. So I just can't sit back and watch stuff like that. My temperament level is not okay with stuff like that. So I'm like, okay, she's capable of doing that to them. Let me dip before she do it to me, you know. So I left because of what I knew she was capable of, not because she did it to me.

Kali: 11:40

Um, and the person people might think that you have a problem with them. They might think it's beef or you know some type of. You know they don't like me, it you. You don't have to explain anything to them, but if you do it, definitely explain that I don't have a problem with you. I don't want to fight you. I don't want to be in, you know, up at arms with you. I just can't be around that because I don't want to be up at arms with the people that You're doing that to you know.

Kali: 12:10

So do you know? Do you, like I said, do you do the same thing I do? Do you disassociate, you know, or distance yourself from people like that? Or do you just sit back and watch it? And if you do just sit back and watch it, do you ever just ask yourself is this right to watch this shit like this? And should I say something to at least address them? You know, you don't have to tell the other person what you see, but maybe address the person doing it. Do you at least do that? You know, instead of just sitting back and talking about the person whispering and gossiping about, do you? I think you should tell their ass, address them, you know. So why are we even talking about this? You ask for one. I'm trying to see how others things. So please, again, feel free to comment. And I also want y'all to know my perspective on this, because you ask a lot and individually I cannot answer all of you. Like you know, like not to sound like, but a lot of people inbox me like what would you do if because, mama, what it is, and I'm just like, okay, I would just cut them off, right, you know? So I think it was necessary to do this show, you know, because a lot of people question what they should do in these situations.

Kali: 13:21

So let me give you a little background and tell you a little bit about me. I'm very isolated. Yes, I have friends, a lot of them, from here to, from the north to the south, from east to the west, because I have traveled a lot of my life and when I call you a friend it's because you are a friend, like I can call you, and you can live in Texas and I can be in Michigan and I can be in distress and you're going to try to do something about it. We are friends. So I do have friends and I have family, but I'm not often around them, you know, and I'm not often around my family. I'm probably around my friends more than my family, you know, and it's because I've seen my family do what I would call scandalous, malicious and not Christian-like stuff.

Kali: 14:01

And when I say, when I say not Christian-like, and why I even use the term not Christian-like stuff, and when I say, when I say not Christian-like, and why I even use the term not Christian-like, is because they're all like members of a church and attend every goddamn Sunday, consider themselves Christians but claim to be Christians but watch people do or allow people to do in front of them, foul shit while being members of churches. So you know, I didn't have anyone to model growing up, but I still knew not to let them be my role model. So, although I didn't see much righteousness, I still knew that that shit wasn't right. So it kind of like in me period like, but some, I guess, have to really go through stuff to to understand that, you know, to understand that some things and some people are not good for us. So before we go any further, I want to go over some terms.

Kali: 14:55

You know, um, some words and or terms that we use daily and a lot on social media amongst each other. But do we really actually know what they mean and how to exercise using them in our daily lives? Because from the comments and the inboxes and the questions I'm getting, I don't think so. And from what I see on social media and on TV and in just reality, I don't think so. Social media and on TV, and then in just reality, I don't think so. And in the workplaces and just amongst people, I don't think so. You know, not just using these words to describe what you want from others. Like you know, are we requiring others to have characteristics that we fail to have in ourselves? Like can you honestly say that you contribute to your relationships being healthy? Are you just a hypocrite? Are you a narcissist? So again, let's go over these terms.

Kali: 15:46

The first one is integrity, and unfortunately cameras are the new form of integrity. Ain't nobody got no fucking integrity? No more like, unfortunately, if you have people don't like you Like, integrity is honesty, sometimes brutally honest. You're going to tell the truth, regardless if they put somebody in jail, whatever it costs you, you're going to keep integrity. But unfortunately, we don't have that anymore in society. That's why cameras are a big thing. They're real Like. That's why they are everywhere, because unless a motherfucker know they're being watched, they most likely don't tell you the truth. And where did that come from? It's like it's kind of disgusting. You know, even our cops and the people that we should trust in society, they don't have integrity and that's why they have to wear cameras. So, yes, the new integrity is cameras, but let's just go over what the word really means, because some people, like even in politics, like they don't know what half that shit mean, so they just talk about it and be like I'm doing this and they don't even know what, so let's talk about some shit today. It and be like I'm doing this and they don't even know what, so let's talk about some shit today, okay.

Kali: 17:00

Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that you refuse to change, regardless of what. So that means if a motherfucker walk in here and be like listen, I know that person and you're a boss, like say, you're a boss like you know I know that person and you're a boss like say, you're a boss like you know, I know that person, work hard, but I want them out of here. I'll give you a million dollars to fire them. Do you take that million dollars? Or do you be like ain't no way, I'm gonna fire them. They on time, every day, they do whatever I say they're a visual learner, they they. No, there ain't no way. What do you do? Or do you take that fucking million dollars and fire the person? Integrity you know again, the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that you refuse to change. So being honest and having strong moral principle is what integrity is pretty much.

Kali: 18:00

What is morals or morality? You ask Another important term. Okay, I think that we misuse or don't know what the real word, the word really means. So morality is being concerned with the principles or right and wrong, behavior and goodness, badness of human character. So, for example, like he or she prides oneself in being highly moral or ethical, an ethical person. You know, let's go over all these terms. They're important during political season too, all right, because I think we tend to use them often again and not really know what they mean. So what does the word principle mean, folks? Let's find out.

Kali: 18:45

It's basically following the moral rule or standard of good behavior Fair dealings. You know, you're not going to tell me my car fucked up, so you can, you know. And then you know you got a leak in the oil pan, but it's nothing wrong with the oil pan, but you do it fair dealings, okay, for example, someone steals two dollars from you. You got 20k and they know that, but they still tend two dollars and you're pissed and they're like but why it's only two dollars? It's the, it's the principle that I know. You're still okay. So that's basically what principle means. Like now, you know I can't keep the 20k right, but it's no, I would never steal 20k. I don't know that, you know, it's the principle. So it's basically following the moral or standard of good behavior and having fair dealings. Okay. Now, when you people know what you're capable of the principle and their relationship, it just ruins a lot, you know. So it's the principle. Boo, it's a principle, okay.

Kali: 19:47

Another term is um honesty. If a motherfucker look you right in your face and say, I'm being honest, I'm telling you the truth, that's not honesty. And so many of you do that. So many of you do kids, but really a lot of adults do that, and it just, it, just really. Who are you afraid of? You can't get whoopings anymore, why y'all lie so much. Who the fuck are you lying? I mean, you know who's gonna put you on punishment, you know like so honesty, being honest is being free of deceit and untruthfulness, being sincere. You guys Are you sincere, regardless of how it makes you look. I'm sincere about this. And who cares? Are you honest? Do you have truth backing up your words? I hope so. So ethics, ethical behavior, let's talk about that y'all. What is that like for real? For real, ethical behavior is characterized by honesty. We just talked about those other words and fairness talked about that too.

Kali: 20:51

And in equity to an interpersonal and professional and academic relationships, okay, okay, for example, you like a student, you don't pass them because you like them. You pass them because they do their work. Okay, again, I already gave you the example. Like you know, if you're an employee, your boss, and your employee, you know, is your cousin, you give them a raise because they're your cousin. Or do you give them the raise because they're really working hard, raised because they're your cousin? Or do you give them the raise because they're really working hard? Okay, do you have ethical behavior?

Kali: 21:22

You know ethical behavior respects the dignity and diversity and rights of individuals and groups of people. So are you one of them? People that see indian people you know they don't wear deodorant and you be like, oh my god, they stink, and you do that in their face? Are you one of them? People that see someone that's muslim and they do that in their face? Are you one of them? People that see someone that's Muslim and they're only showing their eyes and you're like, oh my God, I know she hot as hell? Because, if so, that's not ethical behavior. And think about, on the other foot, they might be looking at you like your perfume might stink to them because they're not used to that or your exposure might make them uncomfortable because they're not used to that. So everybody's culture and race and environment makes them different and we I think we should respect that everybody's difference um, even sexual orientation now we got to put that in there 2024. You know people are saying they're boring like that and we have to respect it, because what if they are? And we've been disrespecting them and I think they are to a point we're gonna have a show about that too.

Kali: 22:32

But yeah, so we went over most of the important terms that explain good character. But are there more? Well, those are the ones that are most commonly used Social media, amongst each other, when you're arguing, and all this shit. But there are so many more you know. So how many of you can honestly say like you really truly have this great character or these characteristics and actually practice being an ethical person? Now, don't get me wrong.

Kali: 23:08

We all tell little white lies like white lies, like I'm gonna be there in 15 minutes, I'm 15 minutes away, knowing damn well you 30 minutes away. Is that okay? Or telling the judge you were not speeding after getting the ticket knowing you was doing 10 over. Or calling in sick to use a sick day and you ain't sick, or getting pulled over by a cop and he asks you so how many drinks you have, and you say two, but you really had six. I think those are all the types of lies that society forces us to tell. Or am I wrong? Should we be telling on ourselves? Should we be telling ourselves sin? Or is that connected to that's your sister? You don't tell on her, I don't know. Comment let me know. You know, I don't know.

Kali: 23:56

I'm really trying to see something, y'all, and what I'm trying to see is if the way we think as a whole is changing, is morality and all these terms that we discuss evolving to mean something else as cultures in the world changes? Like, what about in your relationships rather, friends, family, spouses when do we set a boundary or a cutoff point? Like, when do we say enough is enough? And for me it's when I feel like that. You know what I'm saying, but everybody's different. You know everyone is different and I definitely will cut you off for unhealthy, unethical behavior. You know.

Kali: 24:45

I hope that you are all taking consideration what suppressing feelings and emotions cause. It causes mental health issues and physical health issues and being in distress and at dis-ease because of others or even because of oneself leads to bad health. It leads to dis-ease. Being in dis-ease too long leads to dis-ease. Okay, so you may want to think about what you're doing. You know being mistreated by others is not okay with your body. You know you may think it is because you're able to deal with it mentally, but eventually your body will show you as well that it's not okay.

Kali: 25:28

With the stress, you know, or you suppressing it or not addressing it and being passive can turn into you being abused because you solely give them the allowance or the entitlement to To do those things to you, you know. So, like I said, when do you say enough is enough? And I feel, when you feel that emotion, that's your scale being tipped over. You know everyone's scale is different, just as scales as we use in real life. Like you know, some scales go to 200. Some scales go to 500. So, again, everyone's tolerance level is different. But most of the time time our tolerance level is based off what we've already been through in life. For example, after experiencing a lot of trauma, one may not have a high tolerance level, you know, because they don't want to go through that shit or experience disappointment, betrayal or pain. You know it takes time to fix that, it takes time to heal.

Kali: 26:30

So people who experience lots of trauma, they see the signs early on and they be like fuck that I'm out of here. You think I'm about to sit around for this? They were doing exactly what keisha and them doing. I'm saying I'm leaving today because you ain't doing this to me, craig hell. No, no, bye, felicia. You know what I'm saying. That's me. I don't believe in sitting around. You see the signs. You see a stop sign that means stop. See one say go, go. Say one say yield, yield. You feel me? Just pay attention to the signs, because it's like once you learn the lesson, you take a test once. Who wants to take the test over and over and over again, like or learn the lesson? It's like going to math class and the math teacher teaches the same goddamn lesson every goddamn day and give you the same test every friday. It's like, okay, you know who wants to do that.

Kali: 27:26

So personally, I think more than not we should distance or disassociate ourselves from people who display behavior that is not ethical, especially if it seems to be a pattern. You know it, it's just. It means that they don't conform to a high moral standard. It means that they're corrupt, they do a lot of illegal activities, they're improper, they're always telling lies or underhand somebody, you know, they're unfair, they're unprofessional, they're just wrong, scandalous. You know, I don't like to be around people like that Because I got a way of telling people things you, you know, and they don't like the way I tell people. And at that point, when you're acting like that, I don't care what you like, you know. So, like people like that, they cannot be around me too long before we get to, you know, and I feel they should experience distance or disassociation. And why? So they don't have nobody else to do that shit too. You know what I'm saying.

Kali: 28:33

Like because everybody was once nice. Sometimes I like to believe everybody was once nice until they dealt with somebody like this over and over and over and over and over again, and then they feel like they have to change so that they can handle dealing with people with not good character, you know, with with horrible character. And so it again. If, like one, gets the same companionship out of you, regardless of how they treat you, what would promote them or encourage them to change their behavior or characteristics? Nothing. So sometimes, like you have to disassociate or distance yourself. You know, to redirect, you know their energy and efforts to redirect or change their behavior at least. And if you, if they're, they're not, you know that horrible, whatever they did wasn't that bad to where you feel you need a distance or disassociate, you definitely need to address them because it will get that bad, you know.

Kali: 29:40

So you know again, passiveness passiveness can be toxic to you and them and very inconducive to having a healthy mental state. So I don't believe in being passive. So if you don't like me because I had to tell you about yourself, well then, don't do the shit that I had to tell you about. It's just really that simple. So you know, you guys choose your relationships wisely and you gotta be strong enough to love yourself and require others to respect you. They don't have to love you, but they need to respect you and require others to respect you. They don't have to love you, but they need to respect you, your boundaries, your standards, and you always need to be clear about what those are. You can't expect someone to be a miss cleo and it is not what you want.

Kali: 30:22

Be okay with communicating what all those things are respect to you, what is boundaries to you, what is standards to you, so that once you just you know, you communicate that and they are disrespect, you have all right to say I don't like the shit you know. Prior to that you kind of don't. And because everyone is different due to culture, due to kind of like, do the intellect, so you do have to kind of communicate those things, especially in new relationships to people that are not that observant. Be the person you want to see in everybody. You guys, at the end of the day, we all do the same thing, from culture to culture, from continent to continent. We celebrate when a baby is born, we mourn when someone dies. We're happy to see people do it. We are more alike than nuts.

Kali: 31:22

So be the person that you want to see in others and be courageous enough to address people constructively and not just gossip and gossip and whisper about how scandalous and fucked up they are. Tell the person they're never going to learn if they're not addressed. Some people don't even know that their ways are messed up because that's all they know. That's what they've been around and been dealing with, like their mom, their dad, whoever, sometimes even their grandma is like that and so like, until they're outside of their mom, their dad, whoever, sometimes even their grandma. It's like that and so like, until they're outside of their environment that they know they don't know that that's wrong. So be brave and courageous enough to tell them.

Kali: 32:01

Well, I didn't mean to preach to you guys today, you know, but some things need to be said and you guys asked me you know these, what would you do? Questions a lot in my inbox and you already know what I would do. That's why you're asking me, because you want me to tell you exactly what to say. And so I say you know, speak up. And, speaking of preaching, you can find if you are Christian, even if you are Muslim, in the Quran, I believe. I have both Bibles at the house, I have a few Bibles, biblical texts. I also have an encyclopedia that talks about the most important religions of the world and, um, I will say that they all, um talk about these behaviors and characteristics, and you know they're being described as who you are required to be if you say you are that religion, especially christian.

Kali: 33:03

So I believe, if you surround yourself with nine motherfuckers like this, you'll be the 10th, and vice versa, you know. So surround yourself with nine good people to be the 10th good one, and when you don't surround yourself around these kind of people, you cannot be shocked. When you experience betrayal, you know, and manipulation or disappointment or any type of pain that comes with being their friend, you know they fucked up towards them, why you think they ain't going to be. You know fucked up towards you and so, yeah, don't be shocked. I know isolation it takes tons of strength, you know, but so does healing and getting over things that people do to you. So choose what you want to use your strength to do, folks. It's real simple. It's your choice, and I choose to use my strength to do other things.

Kali: 34:04

Well, that's all I got for y'all today, and I want you to remember that someone is always watching, you believe it or not. Even with the cameras, someone is always watching. So have integrity. You know someone's watching you do good, and so they're saying you know what, I'm about to give her a chance because I haven't seen or him the chance. I don't see that motherfucker working hard for two, three years straight. And you know what? I don't know. If I put them in this area, they'll make me, you know, so like, or someone's watching.

Kali: 34:35

You do fucked up things and you you know, and that's the reason they won't give you a chance, and they network and tell people I wouldn't do it and then they'd be over here doing, they'd be saying they sweep and they'd be creeping. You know, you never know who is watching. You know what I'm saying and I really learned that, like Penny, the hard way, and now I'm full integrity, like so much, and I'm brutally honest. I really you know you're going to see me doing what I do. If I'm doing something that you think is bad, it's because I don't give a fuck. If you see, I don't think it's bad, tell me, be brave enough. But no, no, it's not because I'm trying to be sneaky or anything like I'm. I'm full of integrity and I'm really honest to the point where some people don't like me for that.

Kali: 35:16

But you know it's time for a lot of us to be like that and To be brave enough to instill that we have healthy relationships. That's part of the generational curse. We cannot continue to let people be fucked up people and just get the same results Good results for being bad, like. That's not okay. So again, thanks for watching the D for the week show. That's all I got for you guys today. And remember what I told you guys, for all of you, that inbox me for advice on how to be more assertive. This is how you have to address you to be courageous, to to constructively approach them and also isolate distance and disassociate. Again, don't forget to like, share and subscribe and if there's anything you want to come on the show for, if there's anything you want to see us discuss, don't forget to comment below and we will try to get to that. Thanks for watching the d for the week show. See you next time.